Quick Date Night Outfit Idea

Ok so with date nights far and few, when they do happen you want to look cute! With that being said, when you have a toddler glued to your hip it’s always a little hard to try on different outfits and see which one you like the most!

With me at least, I usually focus on my makeup first since Lina LOVES to pretend she does hers with me, then I’ll focus on my hair because again, she’ll take my extra (unplugged) straightener and do her hair with me. Then when the outfit time comes she’s usually ready to play and wants me to hold her and turns into a miniature crazy person. But I found my new favorite go to outfit for winter! Thanks to FabFitFun! (You can see Lina featured on the home page!)

Back to the outfit, ok so I always want to look good, and conceal the mama bloat that comes with the glass of wine before a date night & all the food that I’m about to devour on date night! With this outfit it does both!

Grab your favorite pair of jeans, a long sleeve shirt, (I wore black last night, but you can wear a colored shirt if you’re looking to add a little pop of color!) and get your poncho ( I’m wearing the BB Dakota Pancho, I got in my FabFitFun box)! I swear I LOVE panchos! They go with anything and if you’re like me and RIGHT before you head out your daughter decides to get something, anything, on your shirt it’s nice to throw the pancho over it and no one knows. 😉 You can pair it with jeans like I did, leggings, even a short dress with over the knee boots if you wanna sexy it up a little! Is the pancho too baggy for you? Wrap a thin belt around the waist area of the pancho to define your waistline and show off those curves!

Here’s a picture of how I wore it for our date night! ( I had to omit doing my hair due to getting ready in 20 min)

Also, here’s a shot of me trying to get a picture of my outfit but my little munchkin wanted to get in it with me!

I hope you all have a great New Year’s Eve, be safe, call an uber, & get ready for an amazing 2018!

Xo

Bye, Bye 2017!

Wow! I can’t believe that 2017 has come and gone, just like that! I have so many things to be grateful for this year! We got to renew our vows and had a great reception with family and friends, went on a cruise to Bermuda, our baby turned ONE, we grew so much as a family and cut out some necessary negativity, and had a magical Christmas with Lina (being almost one & a half she under stood it more!). We also had some hard times, the biggest being losing our second baby. Like I always say, there’s a reason for everything and I look forward to seeing what 2018 will bring us!!

Today I’m focusing on enjoying this snow day and CLEANING! I always feel better when our home feels fresh and I honestly haven’t given it a “deep clean” in a very, very, long time. There’s really nothing like it, although with a toddler running around there will be toys thrown all over in a matter of minutes. 😂

Of course the biggest thing that comes along with the new year is resolutions! I swear I always make a TON of resolutions and never stick to them (studies show only 8% of people stick to their resolutions), so this year I decided I’m not going to make any! I am, however, going to set some goals for this upcoming year!

A few of my goals For 2018

  1. Meatless mondays! I’ve been thinking of doing this for a while now and I’m pretty excited! I have no desire to go completely vegetarian, (your girl loves some steak) but I would like to not rely totally on meat to create a good, hearty dinner!
  2. Keep negativity away! Although some people you have to deal with in one way or another, you can keep them at a distance no matter who they are! This year people will get what they give!
  3. Stress less! Stress is inevitable BUT the way you deal with stress can help immensely! I found reading, journaling, baths, Pilates, and WINE are my stress relievers!
  4. Go on more adventures! This year I want to go to a place we have never been, doesn’t have to be out of the state, just has to be some where we’ve never explored!

One piece of advice I’d like to offer to those of you who make resolutions or goals for 2018, it’s OK if those goals change! As long as you stay true to you, and are a good person, 2018 will be a great year for you. What you put out in the universe you get back! Spread positivity and love!

Now time to go back to some cleaning and I’m thinking I’m going to take Lina to go run around in the snow before we go out to get some sushi (if this snow lets up) with my brother and my husbands brother! Feel free to share some of your goals for 2018 in the comments!! Stay safe and have an amazing rest of the year!

Xo

Woooohsahhh

Let me start this off with, I’m writing this while cozy’d up in bed with my sleepy time vanilla tea, and I feel so dang relaxed its amazing. Sometimes us mamas NEED nights like these. I had my husband put Lina to bed, and I filled up a bath with one of my favorite bubbles, Dr. Teals “soothe and sleep with lavender. Brought in my new book with my new book light Elliot got me for Christmas, lit some candles, and poured a nice glass of Woodbridge Cab Sav. I’ve been buying the mini four pack of bottles, they are cheaper, if you’re like me and hate the way opened wine taste the next day, you won’t have to waste any (or finish a whole bottle in one night .. *Kidding* .. maybe.) AND you get a little more wine. I took a 45 minute bath. I swear when I got out I was a whole new woman. I soaked the stress away, and just RELAXED. Reading also always helps me relax because it takes me into another fictional world. I love feeling like I am living the characters life and getting sucked into their world! I promised myself that instead of falling asleep with the tv (because that NEVER helps me fall asleep) I would read for at least 20 min before going to bed. I totally encourage any of you who have trouble falling asleep to read!

Bringing it back 6 months ago, I would’ve NEVER asked my husband to put Lina to sleep I needed to do everything for her, even though I was home with her all day, it didn’t matter. I needed that time with her. I needed to be the only one to take care of her and have that final “goodnight”. Then I would come into the living room and watch our shows as Elliot snored through the majority of them and left me frustrated because this was supposed to be our time, and he would just fall asleep! (Granted he works 13 hours/ 6 days a week) That’s when it clicked. His way of taking time for hisself is having a beer and taking a little pre night time nap, and if I wanted to give 100% of myself to Lina and my marriage, I needed to take care of me first!

I remember second guessing myself thinking “am I being selfish? Do I really need him to put her to bed so I could take a bath, paint my nails, or have a glass of wine?” The answer is NO! I / WE as mamas deserve that time, we blessed these men with beautiful babies and they can bless us with some quiet time .. and some other things I’m not going to get into. 😜.

I used to be so worried about pleasing everyone and always putting others wants before my own, but after my stress induced miscarriage I no longer care to please ANYONE but myself, and those who truly care for me. Remember if you are giving your all to everyone else and not caring for yourself you WILL burn out, and then who’s going to take care of your kids. That was the life changing quote that really got me to take “me time” because as it is I only trust three people with my baby, my mama, my aunt, and her godmother Jill, and all of them work SOO… they wouldn’t be available everyday if I crashed 😂.

That being said, here are my top 5 favorite relaxation methods when I’m feeling like I’m going to lose it!

1.Take a bath. Load it with bubbles, oils, light candles, have some wine, tea, or water with lemon!

2.Read. Find a good book and enjoy living a different life for a little.

3.Clean! My husband loves when I use this as a stress reliever! I will literally dust, sweep, & everything in between.

4.Do a guided meditation. This was something I really wasn’t to sure about at first because I’m AWFUL at meditating and clearing my mind but it helped to do it in my bedroom, alone, and with earphones.

5.WINE. Pour a glass of your favorite mommy juice & enjoy! If you don’t drink, tea (esp. chamomile or sleepy time) is amazing to feel calm.

6.Ok I had to add a 6th one because this has really helped me lately, journaling! Write down all your feelings! Anger, sadness, why your stressed. Tackle each issue one by one, ask yourself is this going to matter in a month. If it is, write down steps you’ll take to solve this to make you less stressed, remove the person, exercise more, drink a green smoothie every morning, whatever is going to help you get rid of that stress!

If you guys have any stress tips comment below! Time for me to doze off!

Xo

P.s look at this totally cool #Pr0jectmilf sweatshirt my hubby bought me for Christmas!!!

Tuesday Topics; Mommy Shaming

First things first, I hope you’ve all had a great holiday, ours was so much fun! Something about a child at Christmas time brings so much magic!

I got a message asking to talk about the whole “mommy shaming” topic and I thought it was such a great idea, let’s be real, how many of us has ever been mommy shamed? 🙋🏻🙋🏼🙋🏽🙋🏾🙋🏿 Its such a common thing!

My first time being mommy shamed (I will never forget it) was when Lina was 3 months old, I had to bring her with me while I went to the doctor. It was supposed to be a quick ultrasound appointment. Key word supposed to. Long story short, the 30 min appointment turned into an hour and a half, with Lina needing to eat every 2 hours (on the DOT) I was so thankful I was nursing so I could just feed her in the car! Yay! I went to the car, pulled one of my ‘girls’ out and boom, My hungry little girl was getting her belly full and the nutrients her fast growing body needed! Then it happened, a woman holding her McDonalds cup, walks up my MY car, looks in MY window and says loud enough for me to hear through the closed car window. “You should be ashamed of yourself. Go do that at home” I swear my blood was boiling. I rolled down my window and said “excuse me?” She repeated her statement. I replied with “I’m feeding my daughter in the privacy of my own car, you don’t see me saying how awful your Mcdonalds you clearly just ate is for you, (while delicious it doesn’t have much nutritional value) so I’d appreciate it if you kept moving on with your day and let me get on with mine.” Her mouth dropped and she rolled her eyes and walked away. I couldn’t help but think who the hell this lady thought she was to shame me on nourishing my daughter!

Of course there have been many more times after this that more shaming has happened and I think it is awful. Wether they shame you for how you discipline, what you feed them, when you feed them certain foods, or if they can play on your iPhone, iPad, etc. it’s still annoying and uncalled for.

“If I did not ask for your opinion, simply don’t give it.”That being said, I do welcome suggestions but there is a place and time for them. IF you know I am against your suggestion and I reassure you I do not want to take your suggestion please leave it at that. You nagging or being rude will NOT change my, or any other moms mind!

I’m convinced people who mommy shame, are doing it for attention or because they’ve made mistakes raising their own children and it makes them feel good and powerful to attack another (usually younger) mom. Similar to a bully.

My friend who suggested this topic said this happened to her while Christmas shopping. CHRISTMAS. SHOPPING. As if that’s not already stressful enough. Although we did not get into the specifics of the incident, let me tell you this, she has 3 kids under 10 while trying to finish Christmas shopping days before Christmas. Shame on the woman who did this to her because instead of shaming her, she could’ve offered a helping hand or simply just let this mom of 3 get on with her day instead of hurting her feelings.

My advice to anyone that gets mommy shamed is to simply IGNORE IT. Don’t let them get to you, that’s exactly why they do it. If you are the type of person that can’t just ignore it then tell them “I appreciate your suggestion but that’s not the way I will parent MY child.”

My advice to any mommy shamers out there, maybe you don’t think you are shaming, you may think you’re offering an opinion, but to be sure ask the person “can I offer just a little advice” in a nice tone this way it will be taken as advice and like I said previously if they say thank you, leave it at that. To the moms who are consciously shaming, if you did not push this baby out of your hoo-ha then keep your mouth shut. If I did not ask, I clearly don’t need your opinion no matter how badly YOU THINK I do.

Let’s all try to come together as mamas and really be there for each other. If you see someone being mommy shamed act as if you are seeing someone being bullied (essentially you are) and stick up for them! Or tell the mom being shamed ” I think you’re doing a great job”

Remember. YOU created this human, only you know what is best for them. ❤️

XO

Traditions

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With Christmas approaching, the stress is high, and the pressures on. I’m always the one who waits until LAST minute to start my Christmas shopping, and I KNOW that is not going to fly next year when my daughter can actually know what’s going on 😩 being at the mall from 1-6 made me really want to start shopping in October… I’m working on it. BUT Today was so much fun!

I’m totally “that girl” that loves traditions and this year with Lina Being old enough to (somewhat) enjoy them, my best friends (since we were 6 years old might I add) mom invited us to join their Christmas cookie making tradition. Seeing Lina interacting with my friends niece and cousin was too cute for words! They all took turns rolling out the dough, using the cookie cutters, and decorating their cookies! The one thing that her mom did that was so smart was she had pre made cookies ready to decorate for them while she put the uncooked ones into the oven. This helped keep them occupied and not get bored! ALSO, my friends mom did an amazing job at decorating her house it truly looked like a winter wonderland, the tree had golden strings draped in rows, a million heirloom ornament hung in perfect sequence, and a thousand Christmas nicknacks strategically placed throughout her house. Although Lina was drinking the icing and eating the cookies and m&ms instead of decorating them, she was amazed looking through The Webbs house and interacting with other little kids. It was really a special day!

The ornament Mama Webb gifted to us After our decorating fun!

I can not wait to continue this tradition as the years go on! Some other tradition ideas you can start with your own family are listed below!

  1. Cookie Decorating
  2. ChristmasEve box ; make a box with pjs, a movie, popcorn, and hot chocolate. Have your kids open them the night before Christmas
  3. Decorate ornaments
  4. Make ornament wreaths
  5. See Christmas lights
  6. Have a Christmas movie night
  7. Read the ‘Night Before Christmas’ book the actual night before Christmas
  8. Decorate the tree as a family
  9. Make homemade Christmas ornaments or other crafts
  10. Have a hot chocolate bar with different types of toppings!

If anyone has other traditions they love comment below!

Merry Christmas & Happy holidays Xo

Stocking Stuffer Ideas

•Notice the *Empty* Stockings•

Hey guys, with only 4 days until Christmas, YES I said FOUR, I found myself stressing because I’m still not done shopping for gifts yet or stocking stuffers. I was up all night thinking of stocking stuffer ideas so I figured I’d share some, that won’t put a hole in your wallet!

FOR HIM

  • Cologne sample
  • Nips (mini alcohol bottles)
  • Gift card
  • New razor
  • Sunglasses
  • Movies
  • Deodorant
  • Framed family photo
  • Homemade coupon book 😉
  • T-shirt
  • Playing cards
  • Phone charger
  • Shot glasses
  • Money clip
  • His favorite candy or snack
  • A book
  • Chapstick

FOR HERFuzzy socks

  • Wine glass
  • Mini wine bottles (The Woodbridge Cab Sav Is my favorite and only $7.99 for 4 mini bottles)
  • Lip gloss
  • Book
  • Movie
  • Chocolate
  • Slippers
  • Gloves
  • Nightgown
  • Journal

FOR TEENS Makeup

  • Giftcard
  • Nail polish
  • Hair products
  • Fuzzy socks
  • Perfume
  • Diary
  • Choker necklaces
  • Books (chicken soup for the soul : TEEN)
  • New ornament
  • Movie
  • Earphones
  • Travel mug

FOR CHILDREN/BABIESPlaydough

  • Candy/Snacks
  • Socks
  • Slippers
  • Crayons
  • Coloring book
  • Chalk
  • Stickers
  • Small books
  • Stuffed animals
  • Silly putty
  • Pacifier
  • Teethers
  • Onesies
  • Blankets
  • New toothbrush
  • Play makeup
  • New ornament
  • Sippy cup
  • Goodbye note from Elf on the shelf

My favorite place to go for stocking stuffers are Target and 5 below. They have great little items for a great price!

Hopefully this can help you with a couple stocking stuffer ideas if you guys have any suggestions, feel free to comment below!

Xo

Tuesday Topics ; How to Keep It Hot and Steamy After Baby

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^ 8 Months Pregnant with Lina!

So I have gotten some inboxes, emails, and DMs with topics you guys want me to write about (I’m still so excited that you guys LOVE reading this and are becoming involved and are sending me blog ideas!) I decided every Tuesday I will dedicate my blog to all of you, focusing on your questions, topics, ETC!

Todays topic (personal but I swear, I can NOT tell you how many times this has come up!)  is How To Keep The Passion In The Bedroom After Becoming Mom & Dad

Now while i’m no relationship expert I know how important it is to a marriage to keep a things spicy with your significant other. The two things i heard the most while I was pregnant was, “say goodbye to sleep” and “say goodbye to sex”.  I couldn’t help but laugh, because lets be real, i’m not willing to say goodbye to either. I understand sleep can get limited for some moms (I lucked out in that department, my daughter loves sleep as much as I do)  but you’re telling me that just because a baby is added that means there’s no more intimacy? Think back to the first time you and your significant other met, think of the passion you felt for each other, the excitement you felt when you were getting ready to go on a date with them, the risks you both took maybe by something as little as showing a little PDA in a restaurant because you just couldn’t keep your hands off each other, and the spark that there was (hopefully still is). Why does society say that has to end after being a mom? I’m telling you right now, as a mom, and a wife, it DOESN’T. Not if you don’t want it too. If anything, seeing my husband with our daughter makes him MORE sexy to me. There’s something about a man taking care of whats his, and knowing that amazing man is mine that is a total turn on.

I found there were three big reasons why new parents aren’t intimate. I hear a lot of women complaining he doesn’t do the dishes when I ask, he doesn’t ever cook dinner, he just expects me to, or he doesn’t make me feel like he even wants me. I get it, I’ve been there, my Husband is totally incapable of putting toilet paper on the roll when the previous runs out. But i KNOW that, and I do it, you didn’t marry a maid or a housekeeper. Of course, we argue and get into our fair share of disagreements but at the end of the day, holding out being intimate is going to do nothing but tear us apart more. It’s not really solving the problem, it may temporarily but the only way to solve the “he doesn’t” issues are to communicate AND think of all the things he does do! The next reason, is “there’s not enough time and i’m just too tired.” and the third reason is us moms lost our “sexy”.  I understand, being a new mom, having new responsibilities, a new body, is difficult but connecting on an intimate level with the person you love can make it a little better!

Tips that work for me in keeping that spark alive!

  • FLIRT with your husband. Something as little as a wink while out with friends, or a “wow babe, that hat looks really good on you”
  • Be Confident. who doesn’t  LOVE a woman with confidence?
  • Make time, in any way that works for you! If he is always falling asleep before you, wake him up in a way he will love. Or instead of watching ‘The Real Housewives’ take those 30 minutes to “connect” (insert wink here)
  • Switch it up, buy a sexy little outfit, put some makeup on, change up your hair, or even just spray on some perfume. What ever makes YOU feel good. Your husband thinks you’re beautiful! Even if you have stretch marks or if you belly now hangs over your pants when it never used to, remember you’re beautiful, YOUR body grew a human, that belly kept your baby safe. Each one of your stretch marks or rolls are a reminder of your strength, YOUR BODY is incredible, appreciate it. *if he ever makes you feel like you’re not or says comments about your body or looks after carrying his child for 9 months, then there are bigger issues to handle here.
  • Send a sexy text. What ever your comfortable with, could be something as simple as “Can’t wait until you get home” or “Can’t stop thinking of you” let him know you’re thinking of him and that YOU want HIM!
  • Initiate it! Some times our significant other won’t try simply because we aren’t trying.
  • Have alone time. Get a sitter, go grab a beer or a glass of wine & let the rest come naturally, may lead to some steamy kissing in the parking lot of your favorite bar.
  • Communicate. I swear my husband is the worlds worst communicator, BUT, after we have a good talk where both of us listen to HEAR and not listen to REPLY, I swear something happens, a spark just goes off.
  • Don’t Schedule it! Don’t make your love life a job. Don’t plan on being intimate every Friday night. Let it just happen!
  • Naptime! Every child has to nap. Put your little angel in their crib, lock your door, you know the rest!
  • Your husband is not your child. He doesn’t need to take orders from his wife, you guys are equal, while one may do more than the other, if there is an issue and you’re sick of it, COMMUNICATE! Don’t “hold out” from intimacy.
  • Have FUN! Do something that brought you together, Making music, go see live music, try a new restaurant!
  • Therapy. If there is resentment, communication, or other bigger issues go talk to someone!
Us Before one of our date nights after having Lina. Yes Snapchat filters make everything the bomb, and yes I had purple hair! I’m a hair dresser, what do you expect?!

Hopefully some of those tips will help you! If any of you have some tips or tricks that i didn’t mention and helped you, please feel free to comment below!

XO